tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post1394502924485559472..comments2024-03-07T12:27:37.632+02:00Comments on Food & Family: Death and LifeKithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11594062064082350697noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post-5002556849623093292012-01-24T21:38:15.932+02:002012-01-24T21:38:15.932+02:00Kit, it must be difficult to have to deal with dea...Kit, it must be difficult to have to deal with death from two different directions at the same time... your own reactions and emotions on one side, and trying to teach and protect your children on the other.<br /><br />It's good that you realize that your reactions will affect how your children deal with death, and you are taking a level-headed, honest approach. You are a good mom.Marchelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11201825708442679157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post-7586215980046523392012-01-23T19:43:04.545+02:002012-01-23T19:43:04.545+02:00Your mum-in-law is blessed to have this support at...Your mum-in-law is blessed to have this support at this time of her journey. And as they say in the classic, 'the kids are alright'...bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13720127789845544057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post-91904725114690474562012-01-23T18:37:23.729+02:002012-01-23T18:37:23.729+02:00@ Meredith I think reading is a great preparation ...@ Meredith I think reading is a great preparation from life even though it is an one remove, so it definietly helps in understanding, even though it doesn't replace real experience.<br /><br />@Jeanne Thanks for sharing the ministers wonderful analogy and your own experience. Your father and my mother in law are exactly the same age - there is an indomitable spirit in that generation that makes it even harder letting go I think! Or maybe that comes with age! Will we be that fiercely determined when it gets to our turn I wonder?! Thanks for your thoughts, I appreciate it.Kithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11594062064082350697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post-16624110447715538232012-01-23T17:36:43.791+02:002012-01-23T17:36:43.791+02:00Oh Kit I am sorry to hear that. As yo usay, it is...Oh Kit I am sorry to hear that. As yo usay, it is part of life and a rite of passage that we will all somehow have to go through, but it is still hard to watch. I love your phrase abotu how the strength of the spirit frights the frailty of the body - both my parents went through this and it was inspirational and heartbreaking at the same time. My dad would have been 90 this year.<br /><br />At my mom's funeral the minister had a fantastic analogy, referring to my nephew who was born just none months before my mom passed away. He said imagine if we could have talked to Sam in the womb and said to him "in a few weeks, everything you have ever known will be taken from you and you will have to enter another world. You will lose the physical bond you have had with your mother all your life and have to go alone to a strange place". Would he have been keen to go? Of course not. But with hihdsight, being born was a wonderful event and the start of an incredible new journey for him. The priest drew parallels between this and our fear of dying and it was one of the most moving and comforting perspectives on death I have ever heard. <br /><br />I hope your MIL finds peace and the right time to slip away quietly. My thoughts are with you and with your family. xxJeanne @ CookSister!http://www.cooksister.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25059881.post-83493690609788349952012-01-23T11:14:53.085+02:002012-01-23T11:14:53.085+02:00My girls haven't had to think about death. Whe...My girls haven't had to think about death. When my dad died it was abstract for them as he was so far away...like yours. My oldest reads books where beloved characters die but I don't know how much that helps her in understanding how sad it is when you lose someone really love.deedeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10278468497564430383noreply@blogger.com